Reading Suggestions
Below is a list of books and reference materials that you might find helpful as you go through the process of resolving your family law issues. We have listed book recommendations for children, too! Tamera C. Trindade, CFLS* Attorney and Counselor at Law, maintains a lending library for our clients that includes many of these books. We accept recommendations from clients and enjoy hearing our clients’ feedback.
Book Recommendations For Clients
- Ahrons, Constance, “The Good Divorce: Keeping your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart” (1998, Harper Press)
- Ahrons, Constance, “We`re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce” (2004, Harper Collins)
- Ackerman, Marc, Ph.D., “Does Wednesday Mean Mom`s House or Dad`s? Parenting Together While Living Apart” (1997, Wiley Press)
- De Becker, Gavin, “The Gift of Fear” (1999, Dell Publishing)
- Becker, Wesley C., “Parents Are Teachers: A Child Management Program”, (1971, Research Press)
- Blackstone-Ford, Jann and Jupe, Shary, “Ex-Etiquette for Parents: Good Behavior After A Divorce or Separation” (2004, Chicago Review)
- Brook, Noel and Klein, Arthur C., “The Single Parent Resource” (1998, Champion Press)
- Brown, Thomas E., “Attention Deficit Disorder” (2005, Yale University Press)
- Cameron, Nancy J., Susan Gamache, and Doreen Gardner, “Collaborative Practice: Deepening the Dialogue” (2004, Continuing Education Society of British Columbia).
- Clapp, Genevieve, “Divorce and New Beginnings: A Complete Guide to Recovery, Solo Parenting, Co-parenting, and Stepfamilies” (2000, Wiley)
- Ellison, Sharon, “Taking the War Out of Our Words: The Art of Powerful Non-Defensive Communication” (2009, Wyatt-Mackenzie Publishing)
- Emery, Robert, “The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive” (2004, Penguin)
- Fisher, Roger, Ury, William L. and Patton, Bruce, “Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In” (2006, Penguin)
- Folberg, Jay, Ann Milne, and Peter Salem, eds. “Divorce and Family Mediation: Models, Techniques, and Applications” (2004, The Guilford Press).
- Friedman, Gary J., and Jack Himmelstein “A Guide to Divorce Mediation: How to Reach A Fair, Legal Settlement at a Fraction of the Cost” (1993, Workman).
- Gerlach, Peter K, “Build a Co-parenting Team: After Divorce or Remarriage” (Stepfamily Information Series, 2003, Xlibris Press)
- Hannibal, Mary Ellen, “Good Parenting Through Your Divorce: The Essential Guidebook To Helping Your Children Adjust and Thrive Based on the Leading National Program” (2006, Marlowe and Company)
- Hart, Archibald D., “Helping Children Survive Divorce” (1997, Thomas Nelson Publishers)
- Kalter, Neil, “Growing Up with Divorce” (1990, The Free Press)
- Johnson, Robert A., “He: Understanding the Masculine Psychology ” (1989, Harper Perennial)
- Johnson, Robert A, “She: Understanding the Feminine Psychology” (1989, Harper Perennial)
- Johnson, Robert A., “We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love” (1983, Harpo San Francisco)
- Leman, Kevin, “Single Parenting That Works: Six Keys to Raising Happy, Healthy Children in a Single-Parent Home” (2006, Tyndale House Publishing)
- Lyster, Mimi, “Building a Parenting Agreement That Works” (2005, Nolo)
- Meyer, Roberta, “Listen To The Heart” (1989, Warner Books)
- Neuman, M. Gary, “Helping Your Child the Sandcastle Way” (1999, Random House)
- Ousky, Ron and Webb, Stuart, “The Collaborative Way to Divorce: The Revolutionary Method that Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids- Without Going to Court” (2006, Hudson Press)
- Phillips, Barbara Ashley, “Finding Common Ground: A Field Guide to Mediation” (1994, Hells Canyon Publishing).
- Ricci, Isolina, “Mom`s House, Dad`s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child” (2006, Fireside)
- Ross, Julie A. and Corcoran, Judy, “Joint Custody With a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex: A Hands On, Practical Guide to Coping with Custody Issues That Arise with an Uncooperative Ex-Spouse” (1996, Saint Martin`s Griffin Press)
- Schneider, Meg and Zuckerbert, Joan, Ph.D. “Difficult Questions Kids are Too Afraid to Ask about Divorce” (2006, Fireside Press).
- Schwartz, David J. “The Magic Of Thinking Big” (1987, Fireside Books)
- Shields, Richard W., Judith P. Ryan, and Victoria L. Smith, “Collaborative Family Law: Another Way to Resolve Family Disputes” (2003, Thomson Carswell).
- Stahl, Philip Michael, “Parenting After Divorce: A Guide to Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children`s Needs” (2002, Impact Publishers)
- Stone, Douglas Patton, Heen, Sheila and Fisher, Roger,” Difficult Conversations: How To Discuss What Matters Most “(2000, Penguin Books)
- Talia, M. Sue, “How To Avoid The Divorce From Hell: (and Dance Together at Your Daughter’s Wedding)” (2004, Nexus Publishing Company)
- Tavris, Carol, and Elliot Aronson. “Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts” Orlando, FL. (2007, Harcourt)
- Tesler, Pauline and Thompson, Peggy, “Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on With Your Life” (2006, Regan Press)
- Thayer, Elizabeth, Ph.D. and Zimmerman, Jeffrey, Ph.D., “The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce” (2001, New Harbinger Publications)
- Thomas, Shirley, Parents are Forever: “A Step By Step Guide to Becoming Successful Coparents After Divorce” (2004, Springboard Press)
- Wallerstein, Judith S., Blakeslee, Sandra, “Second Chances” (1996, Houghton Mifflin)
- Wallerstein, Judith, Ph.D. and Blakesee, Sandra, “What about the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During and After Divorce” (2003, Hyperion Press)
- Warshak, Richard, “Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing” (2010, Harper)
- Wisdom, Susan and Green, Jennifer, “Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today`s Blended Family” (2002, Three Rivers Press)
Books for Children
- Blume, J., “It’s Not the End of the World” (1972, Atheneum Books for Young Readers)
- Brown, M. and Brown, L., Krasny, “Dinosaur Divorce” (1988, Little Brown Young Readers)
- Butch, Robert J., Adams, Christine, “Happy to Be Me!” Gilbert, S. “Trouble at Home” (1981, Lothrop, Lee and Shepard Books)
- Krenentz, J. “How It Feels When Parents Divorce” (1984, Alfred A. Knopf)
- Lansky, Vicki, “It`s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read-Together Book For Parents and Young Children During Divorce” (1997, The Book Peddlers)
- Lebowitz, Marcia L., and Borguald, Pamela M., “I Think Divorce Stinks” (1992, CDL Press)
- LeShan, E. “What’s Going To Happen To Me?” (1986, Aladdin Books)
- Masurel, Clalire and Denton, Kady Macdonald, “Two Homes” (2003, Candlewick)
- Menendez-Aponte, E. “When Mom and Dad Divorce, A Kid’s Resource”, Elf-help Books for Kids (Abbey Press, St. Meinrad, IN)
- Ransom, Jeanie Franz,” I Don`t Want to Talk About It” (2002, Magination Press)
Books For Professionals
- Fisher, R. & Shapiro, Daniel L., “Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate” (2005, New York, NY: Penguin Group Penguin Books USA Inc).
- MacFarlane, Julie , “The New Lawyer: How Settlement is Transforming the Practice of Law” (2006, Vancouver, BC: UBC Press)
- Mayer, B., “Beyond Neutrality. Confronting the Crisis in Conflict Resolution” (2004, San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass Inc., Publishers)
- Mayer, B., “The Dynamics of Conflict: A Practitioner`s Guide” 2006, San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass Inc., Publishers)
- Mnookin, R.H., Peppet, S.C., & Tulumello, A.S. , “Beyond Winning: Negotiating to Create Value in Deals and Disputes” (2000, Cambridge, MA: The Belknap Press of Harvard University Press)